How to Talk to Kids About the California Wildfires and Natural Disasters
The current wildfires in Los Angeles are devastating, difficult to fathom the scope, and rendering many homeless. At the same time, though less reported, there was an earthquake in Tibet that killed over 100 people and also left many homeless, and in freezing weather.
These events bring not just physical challenges but emotional ones as well. Helping children understand and cope with these situations is essential for their emotional well-being. Here’s how parents can use age-appropriate communication to discuss these challenging topics.
Start with Age-Appropriate Communication
When discussing natural disasters like wildfires, tailor your explanation to your child’s age and level of comprehension. For young children, it’s best to keep the language simple and reassuring. If your child expresses worry over whether the fire could reach them or harm them, you could try a variation of, “Fires can sometimes happen, but we have plans to keep us safe.” For older kids, explaining the science behind natural disasters could help alleviate their concern and curiosity. You can also discuss fire safety precautions and the importance of preparedness.
Answer Questions with Honesty and Clarity
Children are naturally curious, and during emergency situations, they may have many questions. You want to be as honest as possible while also being age-appropriate. Steer clear of graphic details while doing your best to satiate their curiosity. For instance, if they ask, “What happens if someone loses a home?” you could say,, “Sometimes people have to leave their homes to stay safe, but there are ways to rebuild and get help.”
Emotional Validation: A Key to Building Resilience
Your child might display a range of emotions during a discussion about natural disasters. Fear, anxiety, and even sadness might come out. Validate these emotions by letting them know it’s okay to feel this way. Statements like, “I understand you feel scared. It’s a big topic, but we’re here together to work through it.” Emotional validation helps children feel heard and supported.
Discussing Loss and Expressing Emotions
If your family or community has experienced loss—whether it’s losing a home or cherished belongings—it’s crucial to discuss this openly. Encourage your child to express their feelings through avenues like drawing, writing, or talking. Let them know it’s normal to feel sad or upset and remind them of things they can be thankful for, such as their safety or the support of loved ones.
Creating an Emergency Plan Together
Creating an emergency plan together might also be an effective way to alleviate any anxiety they have about natural disasters. This can include:
Identifying a safe meeting place in case your family gets separated.
Packing an emergency kit with essentials like water, food, and first aid supplies.
Discussing fire safety precautions, such as knowing evacuation routes and staying low to avoid smoke.
When we include children in the planning process, it gives them a sense of control and preparedness, reducing their anxiety.
Navigating New Routines After a Disaster
Natural disasters often disrupt daily routines, and children thrive on consistency. After an event like a wildfire, establish new routines as soon as possible. Whether it’s setting up a temporary home or adjusting to a new school, involve your child in creating a sense of normalcy. This can be as simple as maintaining regular meal times or bedtime rituals.
Managing Anxiety Through Various Modes of Expression
Managing fear verbally doesn’t work for every child, which is why it’s important to offer different avenues of expression. Drawing pictures of their feelings, journaling, or even role-playing emergency situations can help them process their emotions. These activities provide a safe outlet for their thoughts and encourage them to ask more questions.
Fire Safety Precautions for the Whole Family
Teach children about fire safety precautions in a way that empowers them. Show them how to "Stop, Drop, and Roll," explain the importance of smoke detectors, and practice evacuation drills as a family. Make these lessons interactive and engaging so they feel confident rather than scared.
Signs to Watch For: When Anxiety Persists
While most children will gradually adapt, some may struggle more deeply with anxiety or fear. Watch for signs like trouble sleeping, changes in appetite, or withdrawal from activities they usually enjoy. If these persist, consider seeking help from a counselor or therapist who specializes in children’s emotional well-being.
Thankfulness Amid Challenges
Witnessing a natural disaster on the news from the safety of your own home is a teachable moment for gratitude. Children can see how lucky they are to be in a safe home, with a safe escape if necessary, with kind neighbors, and firefighters ready to help. Gratitude helps shift the focus from loss to resilience and fosters a positive outlook.